Kalen Marquis is an online therapist, counsellor, coach and educator who reads and writes reflective notes in the margins. As an "actualization advocate," he seeks wisdom, wonder & wellness for all.
After three decades as a teacher, librarian and counsellor, he believes that person-centered counselling and joyful education are gifts we give to ourselves and those we love. To join Kalen and other like-hearted "human beans" on the journey of lifelong learning, explore the links below. Watch the video introduction and click on the round icons to proceed. Thank you!
Reflecting upon O'Donohue's quotation about the human soul's longing to be seen, it is equally important to consider the human soul's need to be heard. As Karl A. Menninger says, "Listening is a magnetic and strange thing, a creative force. The friends who listen to us are the ones we move toward. When we are listened to, it creates us, makes us unfold and expand."
Whether as a family member, friend, or human being in any personal or professional role, there is immense therapeutic power in the capacity to listen. Just listen. Nothing is harder. Or more profound. It costs nothing. It gives much. Between each word, between each sentence, there is the silence. This is the gap where the love and the light get in. The connection is deeper and more transcendent than just the twist or tumble of words. As Leonardo da Vinci said, "The noblest pleasure is the joy of understanding." Empathize. Encourage. But most importantly...
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“Your wisdom and ability to see things from many perspectives is a gift."
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As an Actualization Advocate for individual and collective human potential, the passion projects below are two longstanding collaborative projects with readers, writers, and artists of all ages spanning three decades as a teacher, librarian and counsellor. As a writer and wordsmith, several other books, stories and poems are currently under revision.
Kwil.Club for Creative Inner Children of ALL Ages
LEEF: Lover of Literature, Language, Lyrics, Legends & Lore